...not a race. One of the most important things to remember about family photography is that an image is intended to be a snapshot of real life. Don't worry about the natural ups and downs that can come with the experience of gathering loved ones for a family photo. Let everyone be themselves. Don't worry about the stains on the shirt. Let kids run, snack, and cry. THIS is what you'll miss the most in the end, anyway: them being who they are.